20s are the ages when the so called "adult" tag is supposed to be associated with you. The best part is, it is expected from the knowledge imparted to you from the institutions attended before. I think more was learnt from the knowledge thwarted from you. I had learnt a lot about the quantification of nature and surroundings which humans had established until now. They called it "academics". They had even managed to organize this quantification resulting in a nomenclature of every field like science, social studies, Mathematics, etc. so that every learning human being is able to direct himself/herself towards a certain aspect of nature.
I saw many people wondering about the thing that they want to do in their life. 20s form an age where majority is trying to figure out how to get a stable career, keep the family happy and ofcourse get the girl they want to settle with for a new family. There were many career options and the "organised quantification" was well established for every human to choose where they wanted to narrow down their minds into. There was a great invention made by humans for trade. This invention had the most popular name as "money". Most attractive fields were the ones where a person can attain maximum amount of this invention. Luckily, I had decent amount of this invention to survive amongst the inventors. Family is a subjective perspective but I was extremely lucky to have one which was happy with whatever I do. Kudos to them!
Finally we arrive at the topic which is not institutionalized by humans just yet. Now this is seen as the most complicated and extremely simple thing by the same species. I think the idea of formulating nature is such a prejudice that when they are not able to do it, its complicated for them. I had that kind of prejudice and man, what an experience when it was simplified!
I don't know if you have figured out already but I was talking about love. Now there is no way I can quantify this. Its a feeling right? But formulating observations was my bread and butter. Can I do the same with this? I tried to develop a structure to it and realize if I can quantify. I had equations made out of feelings experienced by humans. I came up with my own constants. I thought I would help humanity by simplifying this weird randomness which noone was able to figure out yet. Then we would have institutions made for this field as well. I am not intelligent but I have a mind which is average enough to result in big things through hard work. But, not a single equation I came up with, satisfied all possible scenarios. I thought, may be I can introduce probability then. Randomness is best judged by probability right?
I went back to basics and realized how useless it was to analyze something which is so inherent to any human being. When you talk about love, I don't know why, but the first thing that comes to mind in majority of the population is "Ahem ahem!", "Whose the girl?". Is it limited to that aspect? Is not love a feeling present between parents and their child, patriot and his nation, between siblings, etc. as well? The difference was unclear to me. The clarity was established when one understands difference between eating food given to you in a platter and eating some thing you cooked with someone. Parents, nation, siblings, all these things are something you have with you once you are born. Its surely a love that you have for your life and will remain with you for life. But the love established with them is part of your growing up. But when you love someone with an expectation of having a relationship, then you are realizing and establishing a new understanding with a stranger based upon your own persona. You spend your time and feel a new vibe that you want to share.
It was then when I saw that defining this feeling might taint its purity. You just feel it, right? When you are at a hill top, early morning, and watch the orange red shades piercing through the sky slowly giving the glance of the most powerful thing; you are simply mesmerized. You look at the sunrise and you say "Its beautiful!". You simply cant define this feeling. You live it. Its the same with love! You don't describe the tantrums your parents had to bear. You don't write down the fights you had with your sibling. You cant experience a smile a soldier has when he dies for his country. You live it! Simple!
Social networking sites had managed to quantify the communication quite a bit. Photos, background, hobbies, interests may be help in finding a new person but surely not enough for the new love you want to establish, right? I thought may be her first glance and then the first hi. Then, slowly unwrapping the behavioral traits she has to accommodate her into your life by regular talks, limericks and small gimmicks. A patient but beautiful accumulation of her words, thoughts and actions helps you find this new love. Now you experience the same sunrises every morning but two more eyes perceive the same beauty. You decide of having a life together being ready to challenge the things missed out and welcome the new things you are unaware of.
There you are! You start a life together. You raise a child making sure he/she is synchronous with expected responsibilities of the society. The son/daughter tries to have his/her own passion that he/she want to live with. You live each day making sure a responsible human being is carved. You watch the child grasping things faster than ever and sometimes even feel proud that he/she knows being passionate in sync with societal responsibilities.Finally, you realize that he/she is writing about his/her perspective of "love" mentioning somewhere about you, by saying: "All these things are something you have with you once you are born!"
That's right! The purest form of love was found by me residing in my parents for each other. They form the ultimate example of what love is. They never defined or expressed or even talked about it. They just lived it! It was simple and it was right there!
